Second Wife

10778327-closeup-wedding-photos-of-groom-and-brideA good husband makes a good wife, even if she is his second wife.

I was 26 years old when I got married. My husband was 52 at that time. That made him 26 years my senior.

I was his second wife.

In my country and community our horoscope is designed at the time of our birth. This astrological forecast known as Jadagam plays a major part when looking out for a spouse.

It sounds very strange when I say it now, but according to my horoscope I could only marry a person who had already been married before – like a widower or a divorcee. Talk about Karma!8489944-zodiac-button-collection--vector

But the constellations did not completely desert me when I was born. It had pre destined a good husband for me.

A little about my husband – He was working as a professor in a college in Brunei. His first wife had given him 3 sons. The first son had been married and the second son engaged to be married, when she died.

A bit about me – I had an older brother and three older sisters and was the fifth born in a  middle class family. My father had died very young and my only brother supported us and got my 3 sisters married on his humble earning.

I was the thorn in his flesh. My mother a staunch believer in the horoscope would not let me marry a “first-timer,” that is someone who had not been married before.

My uncle’s friend suggested this proposal to my mother. Considering the age difference between us, my mother was not too keen on the match. But that friend was very persuasive and we decided to meet the gentleman.

To ease the family burden, I had decided to marry the 52-year-old professor from Brunei who according to this family friend, looked very young and was a soft spoken and gentle person.

Also Brunei sounded exotic to me, as I had not gone anywhere beyond my small  home town Tamil Nadu.

My uncle’s friend brought the professor to visit us.flag_256

He wanted to speak to me alone.

The first question he asked me was:

“Are you being compelled to marry me against your wishes?”

I shook my head and whispered, “No.”

Then he said, “You look very young. You ARE very young.”

I did not reply. He was thoughtful for sometime.

The he asked:

“Will you leave me and run away after marriage, considering I am much older than you?”

I become brazen finding him so gentle and sweet. I told him:

“No. I will not run away. Will you leave me and run away considering I am much younger than you?”

He gave a little laugh, kind of like how you laugh when a little child has said something amusing.

“No. I will not run away.” He said, mimicking me.

“So that is settled then”

“Yes, that is settled then.”

And we were married a few weeks later.

My husband was much more than any girl could hope to find in a husband.  We had a wonderful life. He never left me and ran away – for thirty years.

After that too, he never ran away.

He was borne away in a casket, by the two children I bore him and the three he already had when I wed him.

Story : Mrs.Chettiyar. Written by Gulsum Basheer@talkalittledo.

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10 Responses to Second Wife

  1. ksbeth says:

    this is a very beautiful story, and i believe in karma as well. you were destined to share a life together, that is clear.

  2. Geraldine Gabriel, USA says:

    Thisi is the best blog ever. I loved the story and the ending has been written so beautifully it brought tears to my eyes. I am beginning to believe in karma.

  3. Shaivi says:

    Beautiful story. When love blossoms, it can be even in the oddest of situations.

  4. TBM says:

    Great story. It’s so interesting learning about the customs. I’m glad they had a happy marriage.

  5. Anonymous says:

    This is the best story that i have read in your blog..

  6. cori shackleton says:

    Loved it…. A sweet story told with warmth … the gentle humane touch made it all the more interesting and delightful…

  7. Anne Chia says:

    What a heart warming story!

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